Communication is a Work of Art

“If everyone is thinking alike then somebody isn’t thinking.” George s. Patton.

What is your communication style, and how can it keep you sharp mentally?

Today, many methods of interaction do not even require people to come together, such as reading this text. Granted, communicating could be frustrating, especially when you spend 20 minutes on a phone call and then get disconnected, or when you try phoning someone who doesn’t pick up the phone, even when you know it is in his hand. How many times have you spent far too long re-reading texts that just don’t seem to make sense? What about the frustration of finding out vital information on Facebook! So, how do we get back to the art of conversation?

Don’t succumb to technology to speak with your grandchildren. Imagine if Martin Luther King, Jr. had not had the opportunity to reach people with his speeches. Words add joy to celebrations, inspire friends, and impress grandchildren– even when we think they are not listening.

If you have lived for 40, 60, or 100 years, you certainly have a lot to say. As my dad would say, “Listen to this old man, I’ve been around.” We have experience and a perspective on the important things in life. We have witnessed much, and have hopefully acquired an optimistic view on aging.

Growing up, many baby boomers were told, “Children should be seen and not heard.” For some, it has taken years to unlearn that philosophy. The “Silent Generation” of our parents’ age held their privacy in great regard. For whatever reason, secrecy was dominant, and much important family history was either lost, or passed on only once old age liberated their minds.

Talk to your grandchildren, but don’t ask the standard questions like, “How’s school?” You’ll get the standard answers like, “Fine.” Instead, begin with something more creative like, “Tell me something good (or silly, or sad) that happened today, or “What superhero or cartoon character does your teacher remind you of?” Chat casually, talk about the lunchroom or the bus, and try to get a full picture of their social lives. While you’re talking, give them the lowdown on your school days. Even better, their dad’s or mom’s school days. Kids love to hear stories about their own parents as children.

Seize every opportunity for speaking your mind – it is a good brain workout. My mother used to talk politics with her grandchildren. Although she never voted in 84 years, she had interesting opinions from watching the news all day. She also kept up with celebrity gossip, which always impressed her grown grandchildren.

Listen to other people’s opinions, and you will always continue to learn. When someone is truly interested in your point of view, consider it a gift, a compliment. Show respect for the young ones, and they will value you.

Need icebreakers? Speak hypothetically. Clichéd questions from our youth, such as: “What would you do with a million dollars?” are new to kids. Turn it into a writing game for a great way to be creative and practice math! Their answers will give you a window into their hearts and minds.

Of the four essential human freedoms, the first is the freedom of speech. Speak your mind, and be a good role model for the grandkids.

By Staten Islander Marianna Randazzo, author, educator, and grandmother.



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  1. Brunch with Santa

    December 17
    December 17, 2017  |  12:00 am - 11:59 pm
    Harvest Cafe
    Call for time and reservations
  2. Nutcracker 2017 with Staten Island Ballet

    December 17 @ 2:00 am - 5:00 pm
    December 17, 2017  |  2:00 am - 5:00 pm
    College of Staten Island
    Sat. December 16 at 2pm & 5pm Sun. December 17 at 2pm & 5pm Click here for more information or call 718-980-0500
  3. NYRR Open Run

    December 17 @ 9:00 am - 10:00 am
    December 17, 2017  |  9:00 am - 10:00 am
    Conference House Park
    Participants are encouraged to arrive 15 minutes before the start of the run and to leave their valuables at home – bag check is not provided. No need to do anything before the run, just show up. Open to all
  4. Art Studio

    December 17 @ 1:00 pm - 4:00 pm
    December 17, 2017  |  1:00 pm - 4:00 pm
    SI Children's Museum
  5. Science Time

    December 17 @ 2:00 pm - 3:00 pm
    December 17, 2017  |  2:00 pm - 3:00 pm
    SI Children's Museum
    Join us for this daily program on problem solving, inquiry and creative thinking. Activities include meetings animals from our Bugs exhibit, playing with solar cars, solving puzzle and games or building structures. Time is subject to change each day
  6. Merry Music Series

    December 17 @ 2:00 pm - 4:00 pm
    December 17, 2017  |  2:00 pm - 4:00 pm
    SI Children's Museum
    From 2-3PM and again from 3-4PM Celebrate Hanukkah with a special Jewish cultural music performance and sing along.
  7. Sea Shanty Sessions

    December 17 @ 2:00 pm - 5:00 pm
    December 17, 2017  |  2:00 pm - 5:00 pm
    Noble Maritime Collection
    Led by the Folk Music Society of New York, this program is really gaining in popularity and offers a great opportunity to experience authentic, time-honored maritime songs in an appropriately historic setting. The sessions are free and family friendly, and
  8. Story Time

    December 17 @ 4:00 pm
    December 17, 2017  |  4:00 pm - 4:00 pm
    SI Children's Museum
    Join our staff each day to share and listen to a story related to this months theme, the Letter M. Books about Music, Magnets, Monsters and other fun themes. TIME SUBJECT TO CHANGE, check by calling the Museum for daily
  9. Toddler Time

    December 18 @ 10:30 am
    December 18, 2017  |  10:30 am - 10:30 am
    Huguenot Library
    Join us for some Toddler Time fun! This is an interactive program featuring songs, story time, crafts and unstructured playtime. *​Pre-registration ​is ​required
  10. Baby Time

    December 18 @ 10:30 am
    December 18, 2017  |  10:30 am - 10:30 am
    South Beach Library