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2019 / Archives for October 2019

Archives for October 2019

Protecting Our Future: Addressing School Security Challenges in America

October 28, 2019 By Michelle Yannaco

On Monday July 9, 2018, I had the honor and privilege of appearing before the U.S. House of Representatives Homeland Security Committee to address School Security Challenges in America. I want to thank Chairman Rep. Daniel M. Donovan and Ranking Member Rep. Donald M. Payne Jr. for inviting me to participate in the discussion.

The Subcommittee on Emergency Preparedness and Communications field hearing was held at the New Jersey Institute of Technology’s Newark Campus. I highlighted the efforts Community Education Council 31 has made in advocating for greater security protocols. Our advocacy helped increase emergency drills, training, and grant opportunities for schools and districts throughout New York State.

Community Education Council 31 has been advocating for greater security protocols for several years. In 2012 CEC 31 introduced a proposal — titled Comprehensive School Safety and Security – which included: locking all doors; installing security cameras at main entrances to school buildings; improving School Building Response Team training; overhauling School Public Address systems, and incorporating retired police officers as special patrolmen to supplement school security.

After discussing the proposal with our local, state and federal representatives the plan was introduced in state legislation and signed into law by Governor Andrew Cuomo in 2014. The laws authorized the NYS Education Department to provide grant opportunities to schools to improve infrastructure security (ie. Replacing doors, installing cameras and other technology) for school buildings, mandating increased training for school emergency response teams and more frequent security drills. The law also allows school districts to hire retired police officers as School Resource Officers. In addition, in the same time period, DOJ authorized the use of civilian clothes school resource officers, which aligned with the CEC 31 plan. Until then, the federal grant opportunity only applied to uniformed school resource officers.

Some have raised concerns that locking the front door may hinder emergency responders because they may not be able to access the building as quickly as possible. I believe the use of a “Key Fob” pass key or another similar technological access device could be utilized, allowing immediate entry for emergency responders. The FDNY has a similar system where they utilize a “Master Key” for elevator access across the city.

It is important to remember that it is impossible to prevent all incidents, but we must continually try our best to limit the impact if an emergency occurs.

CEC 31 believes there are several other protocols and supplemental supports that can help school communities. Improving communication between agencies would be beneficial. The NYPD and DOE do a tremendous job protecting our schools, but like everything else there is always room for improvement. Having a regional “Fusion Center” model to monitor and track incidents and threats to schools could streamline information sharing to mitigate the possibility of missing an important trend or piece of information.

Additionally, providing training and potential requirements at the federal level for school districts to report incidents of bullying, threats etc. as well as the disposition of all incident investigations could help identify students who may need additional support and/or counseling. Adding additional counselors to our schools would be a proactive step, but as I am sure you are aware that requires funding.

Lastly, after a recent incident at a High School involving a potential threat with a firearm, we held a safety meeting with our elected officials as well as the DOE and NYPD. We spoke about the impact to response caused by parents and caregivers rushing to the school during the initial emergency. During that meeting we discussed incorporating a family staging area for individual school safety plans. This would coincide with an initial family notification that would include a staging area far enough away from the incident that could potentially reduce the hysteria and chaos resulting from social media posts and text messages.

If possible could DHS consider incorporating a parent video and training piece advising parents to wait for a notification and only respond to officially designated staging areas?

Additionally, if the current training doesn’t incorporate a piece recommending school communities establish staging areas to reduce traffic at the incident site, could it be added?

My full written testimony can be viewed here: https://docs.house.gov/meetings/HM/HM12/20180709/108505/HHRG-115-HM12-Wstate-ReillyM-20180709.pdf

The U.S. Department of Justice has $2 Billion dollars in grant opportunities related to improving security for schools and districts across the country. Far too often these funding opportunities are not publicized. During the hearing, my fellow panelists and I asserted the need for the federal and state governments to improve notification to stakeholders about any and all grant opportunities.

COPS – Community Oriented Policing Services

U.S. Department of Justice – Grant opportunities

https://cops.usdoj.gov/default.asp?Item=2958&inf_contact_key=5bdbb4ec1f38218e5019ac0ca8c5afa3623e9b0d40375c74b1f6f96049294263

By Michael Reilly, District 31 Community Education Council President 

Filed Under: Family Fun

12 Weeks of Summer – Week 8!

October 28, 2019 By Michelle Yannaco

With just a few weeks left to go, summer is winding down soon. Check off your summer bucket lists before it’s too late! Here’s this week’s lineup of fun>

Thursday, August 9
Declare Random Acts of Kindness Day
Make someone smile today! Here’s a list of 100 different acts of kindness from Coffee Cups and Crayons for kids to do.

Friday, August 10
Special Trip Day – Jenkinson’s Boardwalk
Enjoy a summer day at Jenkinson’s Boardwalk in Point Pleasant Beach, New Jersey, where you can soak up some sun, ride the waves, check out the aquarium, play games on the boardwalk and even hit the Amusement Park. Plan to spend the whole day!

Saturday, August 11
Go Stargazing
Go stargazing with the Amateur Astronomer’s Association in Great Kills Park. Spot some constellations using the telescopes provided for free. Setup starts at sundown, around 8:30pm.

Sunday, August 12
Family Adventure Race
CityParks Foundation is hosting its annual Family Adventure Race in Conference House Park, where families team up on an obstacle course featuring javelin throw, jump rope, hurdles, mini climbing wall and more in an exciting race to the finish line. Click here to register for the 9am race or click here to register for the 10am race.

Monday, August 13
Ultimate Crafting Day
We’ve been busy this summer perusing Pinterest and pinning the coolest crafts for kids. Click here to check out our Kids Crafts Pinterest Board featuring over 100 of our favorites!

Tuesday, August 14
Special Trip Tuesday Wild West City
TWO special trips in a week??? Yup! It’ss ummer! And there’s only a few weeks left so make the most of it while you can. Check out Wild West City in Stanhope, NJ for an entirely new experience for families. The Western theme park has 22 different live action shows, old western trains, stagecoach and pony rides, and much more.

Wednesday, August 15
Visit the Zoo
Spend an afternoon with Amur leopards or the sweet sea otters at the Staten Island Zoo. Admission is free for all from 2-4:45 pm every Wednesday (donations welcome).

Filed Under: Family Fun

12 Weeks of Summer – Week 9

October 28, 2019 By Michelle Yannaco


Hey Mother Nature — who asked you for all this rain? Can we get a few NICE days, please?? Thankfully, there doesn’t seem to be many thunderstorms in the forecast for the upcoming week, so it’s time to get your family out of their rain boots and back into their bathing suits! Here’s our family fun lineup for this week:

Thursday, August 16
Wildlife Superheroes
Have you ever wondered why some of our most popular superheroes are often named after animals? The Dongan Hill Library is getting a visit from a New Canaan Nature Center naturalist who will give participants an up close look at several creatures with an array of “super” qualities that makes each a “wildlife superhero” in its own right. Get more info on this special summer reading celebration here. 

Friday, August 17
Movies Under the Stars
Catch a family-friendly flick in your local park every Friday and Saturday in the summer (and select weekdays as well)! Check our calendar for details on which films are showing where. This weekend’s lineup includes Avengers: Infinity War, The Lion King, The Emoji Movie and Rampage.

Saturday, August 18
FDNY Summer Block Party
FDNY’s annual summer block party combines fire safety with fun. The annual kid-friendly event takes place in every borough and features food, games, music, firefighters and fun. It’s a one-of-a-kind chance to explore the firehouse and EMS station and meet with fire safety education teams. Kids will also get to meet the FDNY Fire and Life Safety Mascots, Hot Dog and Siren. Staten Island’s Block Party will take place on Saturday, August 18 at Engine 153 / Ladder 77 at 74 Broad Street from 11am to 4pm.

Sunday, August 18
Special Trip Sunday – Land of Make Believe
This family-friendly amusement park has a waterpark and rides for all ages. Reasonably priced, with free parking, free picnicking, and short lines, it’s worth the drive (which is just over an hour/hour and a half) into New Jersey. Visit their website for more info.

Monday, August 19
Summer Cleaning
Chances are, your family has been out and about so much this summer that you haven’t had much time for cleaning lately.  Why not make it a team effort? The Intentional Mom offers ten great tips for getting kids motivated to clean here. Happy scrubbing!

Tuesday, August 20
Geocaching
According to geocaching.com, Geocaching is a real-world, outdoor adventure that is happening all the time, all around the world. To play, participants use the Geocaching app and/or a GPS device to navigate to cleverly hidden containers called geocaches. There are millions of geocaches in 190 countries waiting to be discovered—and according to their site, there are 3,325 geocaches around Staten Island. Remember the Great Pokemon Go Craze of 2016? Well, Geocaching is like that — only better and fun for everyone (not just walking zombies with smart phones).

Wednesday, August 21
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Filed Under: Family Fun

This Is How I am Navigating The Challenges Of Co-parenting

October 28, 2019 By Tammy Letherer

I had been divorced for a couple years when my former husband called with a surprise. Thankfully, it wasn’t the type of surprise he delivered the night he sat me at the table and told me he had been unfaithful for more than a decade and was leaving me for someone he met in Las Vegas.

No, this surprise had to do with our twelve-year-old son. He said he was taking him to China for a vacation. I got that feeling you get when you walk in on a conversation and everyone is laughing and looking at you like you know what they’re talking about.

China?

How had this come about? I searched my memory for some mention of anything remotely Chinese on my son’s wish list. Had the two of them been to see the First Emperor’s Terracotta Warriors on display at the Field Museum? Or taken a school field trip to Chinatown that I didn’t know about?

The only connection I could come up with was my son’s collection of Pokemon cards, but those are Japanese.

“Um….that would be cool, I guess,” I said, still processing the random nature of his declaration. By the time I gathered my thoughts enough to pose some questions and concerns, he announced that he had bought tickets to travel during a school week and over days that were technically mine on the parenting schedule.

“I can’t change it,” he said. “If I do, I’ll have to pay $1,000 and I know you don’t want that.”

What I didn’t want was to be told what to think or how to feel. An immediate, familiar pressure gripped my chest as I recalled all the activities and decisions that had already occurred behind my back. That he would plan something so extravagant for our son without discussing it with me felt too unfair. I was already struggling with the realities of co-parenting our three children, still getting used to the myriad ways a divorced mom must learn to let go as she is eased out of her job.

After college, I worked as a secretary in London for a few months and learned that, rather than firing people, workers are “made redundant.” It means the same thing, but sounds so much nicer. I’ve been made redundant as a mother—no longer needed or useful in all the ways I once was.

This shows up in small ways:

Tell me about your science project. I don’t want to talk about it. I told dad all about it.

Want to see the new Marvel movie? Sorry, mom, we saw it with dad.

Guess what? I got pizza for dinner! (A chorus of groans.) We had pizza two nights in a row with dad!

And in big ways, like feeling helpless and broken during that stretch when my daughter called, in tears, begging to come home every time she was at her dad’s. Or having no words of comfort when my boys expressed their anger about their dad’s girlfriend moving in.

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All of those impotent moments were triggered again by the thought of my son flying halfway around the world without me. I imagined him sleep-deprived and anxious from the long flight, wandering lost in a crowded street market, even starving, thanks to his finicky diet.

Overprotective? Maybe. But once your trust in someone is so completely shattered, how do you patch enough of it together to cover some areas and not others? I believe my kids’ dad is, as a parent, loving and devoted. But I believed that about him as a husband, too, and I was wrong.

I don’t blame myself for being guarded. I believe that any mother who has ever experienced betrayal would likely volunteer to go through it again rather than see her kids suffer a similar disappointment. At the same time, I have to be careful not to color my kids’ experiences with my disappointments. For me, this meant smiling while I packed a suitcase and waved bon voyage to my baby. It also meant feeling genuine happiness when my baby returned unscathed, unperturbed, and a little more worldly.

Yes, I have learned some wonderful lessons on this road back from betrayal. Here are the big three:

Respond rather than react. One of the best decisions I made, early in the divorce process with the attorneys from kwdllp.com/family-law/, was to treat negotiations as business agreements and relegate them to emails rather than phone calls. That way I can take my time and formulate a clear-headed answer on my timeline. Reacting equals losing power. Responding equals reclaiming power.

Have your facts straight. In the case of the China trip, I assumed that my son couldn’t be taken out of the country without my permission. But when I checked our parenting agreement, I saw that my former husband only needed written permission from me the first twenty-four months following the divorce. Wow. That shocked me, but there it was, in black and white. Gathering the facts gave me time to gather my thoughts enough to get clear about my objections and whether they were ones I had a right to make. As galling as it is to have to follow rules with a rule-breaker who broke your heart, do it anyway.

Come from a “well-fed” place. This is the juicy center, the meat inside the sandwich. Everything revolves around my ability to get quiet, tune into, and take responsibility for my inner world. What are my motivations? Is this about me or my kids? Am I fighting for the sake of fighting? Am I settling an old score? Am I bored, lonely, or craving drama? I need to look at whether I’m feeding myself what I need rather than entering into a “hungry” exchange with my former husband.

Of course life, in its perfection, always provides us with opportunities to practice these skills. I had another chance when our daughter turned thirteen and her dad decided it was her turn for an extravagant trip—to Thailand. This time I was prepared.

My response? Don’t forget your sunscreen.

Oh, and bring me back a buddha.


Tammy Letherer is an author, writing coach, and blogger living in Chicago with her three children. The Buddha at My Table is now available for preorder and will be available for purchase on October 16, 2018 from Amazon, Barnesandnoble.com, Indiebound.org, and Shewritespress.com.

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Filed Under: Positive Parenting

Fast Facts About the Mid-Island Little League All Stars

October 28, 2019 By Michelle Yannaco

The excitement over the Mid-Island Little League All Stars has been palpable on Staten Island. The Mid-Atlantic champs are taking the field to compete against baseball teams from around the globe and one thing is for sure; they have the support of fans all over New York. Here’s what you need to know about these 12-year-old boys and their impressive journey to the 2018 Little League World Series.

They’ve won their first two games of the series so far, defeating the Midwest 5-2 and the Southwest 2-1. They are now just one game away from the U.S. Finals. We will keep you posted!

They are the ONLY team from within the five boroughs to ever win the Little League World Series (which was back in 1964).

The boys won 15 games IN A ROW to make it to the World Series in Williamsport, PA.

Coaching the team is Joe Calabrese. The team dedicated the season to coach Joe’s brother, who passed away suddenly of a heart attack in 2014. His son, John Jr. now plays on the team.

Pitcher Gregory Bruno threw a perfect game at the Mid-Atlantic championship in early August, which played a major role in helping the team advance to the World Series. Click here for the complete roster and stats on each player. You can also get a live play-by-play of the games in real time at that link. You can watch the games on ESPN (channel 570 for Fios and 300 for Spectrum).

The Little League World Series is comprised of competing teams from eight regions throughout America and eight international regions. Click here to see which states and countries these teams are from.

If they lose two games, the team will be out of the series (nooooo!). Click here to see all World Series game results and schedules.

A Go Fund Me page has been established to help the team fund their journey. You can share it or donate to help the families with costs. If you eat at Applebees in the Staten Island Mall anytime on Wednesday, August 22, 20% of your bill will be donated to the team (present this flyer). And on Tuesday, August 21 from 8:30am to 2:30 pm, 100% of the Commons Cafe profits will be donated to Mid-Island Little League to help fund their trip.

GOOD LUCK TO THE MID-ISLAND LITTLE LEAGUE ALL STARS!!
Congratulate the team below!

 

Photo credit: Mid Island Little League Facebook page

Filed Under: Family Fun

Sign Our Congratulations Card for Champion Mid-Island Little League Team!

October 28, 2019 By Michelle Yannaco

OUR GOAL IS GET AT LEAST 1,000
SIGNATURES TO SHARE WITH THE TEAM

Congratulations to Coach Joe Calabrese, #2 Jayson Hannah, #3 Chris Cancel, #4 Logan Castellano, #5 John Calabrese, #10 Robert Cavalieri, #12 Chris Bedford, #13 Gregory Bruno, #15 Frank Scerra, #17 Thomas Puglisi, #19 Derek Mendez, and #24 Steven Martinez. 

Show your support for Mid-Island Little League! Sign your name and your family members’ names below and let the team know you are rooting for them!

YOU CAN ALSO HELP THE FAMILIES COVER THE COSTS OF THE TRIP TO THE LITTLE LEAGUE WORLD SERIES! Please donate to help offset the traveling costs for these wonderful families.

Go to the team’s Go Fund Me page and make any contribution.

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